Day (or Night) 9, November 10th.

Lights. Camera. Action.

Sexy photo shoot time. We got out the camera last night. It was almost 4am when we got home and got to business. I was tired and a little tipsy, but more tired. I think this could have been more fun if it had taken place a little earlier when we both had more energy. But life gets in the way of everything.

Anyway, we took some sexy and cute photo's, poses, etc. Then, and this was obviously for him, some photo's of us in flagrante.  I may be a prude sometimes, but I can step outside the box every now and then. But I do find it a bit hard to then discuss/write about the specifics. I am trying though. :)

Point: If I had had a few more drinks and it was closer to 2am then 5am I think this would have been way more fun. 

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Day (or Night) 8, November 9th.

 Cuddling.

I was previously not a huge fan. That was of course until I was a member of the super exclusive couples club and want to be completely wrapped up in someone. Since most nights we either head to bed either thinking exclusively of sex or sleep, this was a bit of a departure from the norm. No sex, and not just a precursor to sleep, we spent the late evening cuddling. Watching movies, talking, laughing, and cuddling the entire time. My enjoyment of it made me feel like a huge girl, but what can you do?

I know some may think this has no place, but I personally think it has huge bearing on intimacy. Wanting to be close to someone just for the sake of being close, and not to attain mutual or unshared pleasure.

Point: I enjoyed. Period. :)

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Day (or Night) 7, November 8th.

 Mirrors are a funny thing. There's all sorts of lore about them. The one thing I know is your reflection has a funny power.

We'd discovered my penchant for sex in front of mirrors shortly into our relationship.  Last night I was reintroduced. We were having sex in my favourite position but as can sometimes happen I wasn't quite getting to where I needed. So we changed into my second favourite position, The Leap Frog, which is really just a modified doggy style, and although good for deeper penetration (which does not work for me), is always fun and pleasurable. Now in this position in front of a mirror, with him occasionally smacking my ass, or pulling my hair, it's pretty close to amazing. I have had an orgasm in this position before but it's not a guaranteed thing every time. It was a great surprise last night.

Point: I love sex in front of the mirror. :)

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Day (or Night) 6, November 7th.

 We had jokingly bought aphrodisiac products in the past, but really didn't make an effort to see if there was any difference. Last night, we picked up 3 different ones. For him, a viagra like pill, that promised the usual, bigger, harder, able to go more then once. For me, a drink that promised arousal and sensitivity, and a topical gel promised the same as well as stronger orgasms and multiple orgasms. All of these products stated to take them 5-20 minutes prior to sexual activity. So to test how effective they were we took them and stayed in different rooms for 20 minutes to see if anything happened with no stimulation from each other. When the time had elapsed we saw very minor effects: he had an erection and I was slightly more sensitive, my sensitivity I think was more due to the fact that one of the ingredients in the topical agent was camphor oil, which had a tingly effect.

The sex wasn't enhanced for me, and he was not able to go again, even though he did maintain and erection after orgasm and ejaculation. The drink left me quite hyper for the rest of the night, which was very amusing for both of us.

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Day (or Night) 5, November 6th.

 So last night was a failure.

I hit the hay early in an effort to get up earlier today, which didn't work. Sleep was being fairly elusive, so I took a prescription sleep aid, it didn't help exactly, because I kept drifting in and out. So when my husband came home I was half out of it and the half that was awake was pretty frustrated. He was also intoxicated so much of his attention was very fumbly. Lol. We have tried the whole waking up to having sex thing before, but it doesn't always work. Last night was one of those nights, I was too out of it to get into it. I was just irritated, at least that's how he described it to me. To top it all off I wasn't able to finally sleep until 8am. Grrr ... Argh ...

 I wish it hadn't been a bust, but shit happens, right? We will have to revisit this scenario one day when it isn't about the list.


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Day (or Night) 4, November 5th.

Well we had a plan. We had picked something from the list earlier that day.

Last night I was home a few hours before him, boys night. I watching movies, when I received a text that read, "I'm on my way home, will you be naked?" I replied and stripped. When he walked in, we talked and laughed about a scene from the movie Waiting. We were fake arguing about something and started play fighting, which was completely unfair as I was naked and he fully clothed.

We wanted to get started on the nights work, having chosen "Hands Only" as a follow up to "Mouths Only," but both agreed it wasn't a great choice. Unfortunately as he has probably already mentioned I am vibrator dependent. Manual and oral don't always do the job for me, they are great as foreplay but won't end in orgasm the majority of the time. So we almost always incorporate my vibrator into sex.

Back to the story, we were play fighting which somehow mutated into a dominance/rape fantasy situation. Where he took complete control and power. He flipped me onto my stomach and was spanking me fairly hard. He pushed my face down and pushed into me, it was a shock and surprise. He then proceeded to quite literally take me by force. He asked me, "Why aren't you stopping me? Why aren't you saying no?"

I had no answer which seemed to make him want one even more. Suffice it say I had no answer most of the night unless he forced me to give him one. Hi description will probably be far better.

He was demanding all night even when ordering me to come. The thing is although physically I was aroused, obviously wet. Mentally I'm not sure where I was, this has always been a fantasy, but whenever we have toyed with it before, I was expecting it and was laughing and playing along, this was different. I can't really explain it.

I may be able to elaborate more later, but I'm still wrapping my head around it right now.

Until next time ...

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*Raincheck *Day (or Night) 3, November 4th.

Unfortunately still dealing with this health issue, the timing is horrible. So due to this, the next few nights with have to be relatively tame when it comes to experimenting.

Last night was our rain check on night three which we decided would be "mouths only" night. We started by going somewhat old school, and a had a nice leisurely make-out session. It was great to go back to just kissing, which I think is skipped over far too often. I still fondly remember the days when you would spend hours kissing and not much else would happen. :) (Maybe I was a tease.)

On to serious business:

As I am usually a little bit selfish in bed and expect to be attended to first, I took the initiative. I began with his ears and neck little nips and licks. I worked my way down to chest, nipples, and navel. We were sticking to the mouths only rule pretty adamantly, but I am sure my breasts dragging along before my mouth did a lot of the work. :)

I had finally reached my destination, and again no hands, gave him slow, lingering licks with my tongue, then engulfed as much as I could in my mouth and sped up the pace. Choking myself more then once, as I know he likes to feel me take as much as possible. I have no problem with this mind you.

He rolled me over and kissed and licked his way from my ears and neck, all the way to between my legs, much the same as I had done. It felt great. I still wasn't feeling great so I wasn't able to enjoy this as much as I would have liked to. So I don't want to go into to much detail, but I do feel obligated to say we did cheat.

After I took a small bathroom break, he asked me if he could watch me touch myself while I was giving him a blow job. I repositioned us so that I was sitting reclining against some pillows and he was kneeling near my head giving me access and him a good view. After a short amount of time he asked me if we could cheat, I figured why not, we did what we set out to, and I always prefer to orgasm with him inside me. It's a totally different orgasm and I think far more powerful.

All in all I think a very successful nights work/play. :)

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Day (or Night) 3, November 3rd.

Unfortunately due to some unforeseen health complications resulting in a trip to the hospital, night 3 had to be rain checked to tonight. Sorry. :(

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Day (or Night) 2, November 2nd.

Last night was mutual masturbation night. Now truth be told my husband and I have done this before on many occasions, and for multiple reasons. Sometimes with a visual aid (porn) and sometimes without.

Yesterday was a night of oddly dubbed Spanish porn. We curled into each other and enjoyed the show so to speak. I began gently touching myself, while he did the same. With his free hand he would gently squeeze my breast or pinch my nipple, while I would stroke whatever patch of skin I could reach.

As I always warn him, when watching porn I can orgasm within the first 5 minutes, so I was taking my time but as usual I jumped the gun. So I proposition him to move on to sex. It was short sweet and to the point. After I had had two more orgasms I asked if he would like to come in my mouth. What followed was pretty funny, he immediately pulled out (while saying, "my turn") as he was already about to come, and was trying to get to my mouth, when he came all over my stomach and chest. We laughed and collapsed back onto the bed side by side.

Overall a great night, as all of the usually are.
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Day (or Night) 1, November 1st.

Last night was not exactly something new, but there was a new sense of purpose.

Shower night. After a long day, we came home to the first day of the challenge which was to bathe and groom each other before heading to bed. This is definitely something we had done before, but I think it was always in jest.

When it comes to grooming everyone has a style or preference of their own, mine is usually quite naked, bald, and he is usually very neatly trimmed, so it was a tad challenging in our tiny shower to do this for each other.
That said, I think knowing that there was a purpose made it a fun, giggly, experience.

However, when we made it into the bedroom it was anything but giggly. We lay naked just enjoying being fresh out of the shower. I assume because we abstained for some time before this began it made everything more urgent and erotic. We kissed and touched which led to him going down on me, I found myself extra-sensitive. I was eager to move on, so I quite literally told him, "to get off me," and I went down on him. I proceeded to give him a very wet very eager blow-job where I actually choked myself trying to deep-throat him. (He taught me this trick early on in our relationship.) :)

The sex was great we stuck to the usual positions this time, spooning, and moved into my favourite, the modified missionary, where I am on my back, legs very far apart, and he is up on his knees either holding my hips, thighs, and sometimes like last night has a hand wrapped around my throat.

Final thoughts, I think when you make sex a priority, not necessarily schedule it (but kind of do), it takes on greater importance and it builds anticipation. But i might be wrong. :)

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November the experiment begins ...

Hi,

I'm Her, 23, married (happily :)).

I should probably clue you into what this is all about. It all started with a bet, "spicing it up", the topic. My husband and I were toying around with the idea of trying something new everyday for 30 days. Like the majority of couples out there, things do get pretty predictable, and again like every couple out there we have our sexual issues.

Me first, since this is my blog. I am the proud(?) owner of a retroverted uterus and incredibly sensitive cervix. This made sex an awkward issue for a very long time. However, I was very lucky to find my husband who finds very creative ways around this despite having a plus sized package.

 My husband is a great lover, but I remember our first night together:
"Whoa!" - me
"What do you mean?" - him
"I don't think I can, you know, I mean it won't fit!" - me
I think that says it all.


Back to the pseudo serious, like most of you have at one time or another noticed in your own relationships, we do often find ourselves resorting to the old standbys, positions, tricks, methods, etc. Myself, I noticed this starting to affect my desire to have sex, or we noticed! Now this by no means reflects on the quality of the sex being had. I think of it like chocolate, it always tastes good, but sometimes your just not in the mood for it. (lol)


 You will see a post from myself everyday after we've tried something on the list. You can also see my husbands thoughts and opinions at:

Part of this whole challenge is that we're not allowed to look at each others blogs, in an effort to keep it honest.

So finally after much research and investigation the list of 30 for 30 was made. Checked. Edited. Proofed. And it is now complete. It's November 1st (Day 1) so time to get started. ;)

Who knows what will come of this, but at least it promises to be fun. :)

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